Bonnie’s 2022

2022

We have moved to a new year.  2021 wasn’t the best year for sure.

Our society has been dealing with Covid and now we are experiencing the Variants.  Who would have ever thought this would be another new normal?

Speaking of a “new normal” we all know how life is different since our loved one is gone. Perhaps, you have experienced your loss for a long time or you  are a new member toa club no one wants to be a part of.

Here are a few thoughts to think about:

• Your loved one’s suicide does not define who you
• Do not be one of those people who hides from the suicide.
• You may be moody at times, but that is okay.
• Your loved one didn’t commit suicide he or she died by suicide.
• Let others know it is important to use the name of your love one.
• Enjoy a new hobby.
• It is okay to laugh again.
• Let others know where you are in your grief.
• Should you not want to do something then don’t.
• Accept that you may need some medication to cope.
• Read some literature on suicide.
• You may never truly know the “why” of the suicide. Instead of trying to figure out the why just accept
• A support group may be helpful.
• Know you may never get over the loss but through it.
• Be willing to accept the new you.
• Some of your relatives or friends may never understand. It is possible that you may lose some friends.
• Don’t be in a hurry to get rid of your loved ones “stuff.”
• Everyone grieves at their own time.

Grief Speaks

Anyone who has lost a loved one knows that you don’t recover.

Instead,  you learn to incorporate their absence and memories in your life

and channel your emotional energy toward others. Eventually your grief will walk beside you instead of consuming you.

–Rashida Rowe